Law of Attraction and Parenting

We’ve heard a lot about the law of attraction. Simply put, the law of attraction means attracting what you want by focusing on it, by thinking about it.  Can the law of attraction apply to good parenting?

You catch your children fighting. You get upset. You tell them to stop fighting and why it is not good to fight.  You make rules and lecture them on the consequences should they break your rules. You turn your back and the moment you do, they continue fighting.  

This is where the law of attraction comes into play in good parenting.  What you think, say and do to prevent untoward behavior of your children actually makes your child do that unwanted behavior.  

The law of attraction fuels attraction of like energy. Everything around us is energy.  Our house, car, gadgets and even our body is made up of molecules of energy. Our thoughts and feelings emit energy too.   

We are a powerhouse of energy, a powerful magnet of energy.  Your thoughts make you emit emotions.  Your emotions will either attract or repel people, things and events in accordance to what you feel.  For instance, if you have good thoughts, you will have happy or have positive emotions.  These emotions will then attract good/positive people. 

The law of attraction can support you in parenting. If your reaction to your children’s fighting is as described above – you get annoyed and irritated, you start lecturing them on “do not” – you are basically focusing on the negative energy.  This negative energy will then attract negative results.  Your children will keep fighting and you will always be frustrated.

Instead of focusing on the negative, you need to channel your energy to the positive side to attract positive results.  Our relationship experiences are determined by our thoughts, emotions and expectations. To have a positive relationship with our children we need to have positive thoughts, emotions and expectations of our relationship with them.  This positive energy will not only improve our relationship with our kids but will also be instrumental in growing responsible and good children. This will train our children to be in alignment with the positive things in life.  They will start to develop an internal or body mechanism that allows them to feel and enable them to determine good and positive things from bad.  And because of the good feelings that they receive from positive reactions, they will have a yearning to do as you teach and as you please.

You can develop the positive law of attraction when you focus on what you want, get your thoughts and emotions to agree on what you want. So the next time your kids fight, focus on what you want to happen.  Step back, calm down, think positive thoughts.   Then express your desires, needs, intentions and expectations to your children in a positive and loving way. Show them they are loved and accepted.  When your children feel these positive emotions, they will respond in a positive way. They will then cooperate to the achievement of your desires for a loving family, living harmoniously and peacefully with one another, giving respect and cooperation.

The law of attraction will make our relationships work with our children if we envision love, peace and harmony so that we attract the same emotions from our children.

 

Sef Love

Most single moms are guilty of this… they do not love themselves or they love themselves less.  They probably are consumed by loving others, most specially their children, that they forego of self love.

Self love is one of the most essential ingredients to success in all areas of life – career, relationships, health, finance, etc. Self love means accepting yourself and  believing in yourself.  It means recognizing that you are good and that you deserve the good things that life has to offer. Self love brings about confidence and a calm spirit.

People who inhibit self love find peace, joy and success.  On the other hand people who have low self esteem and a negative perception of themselves are never successful and are not contented.   

If you feel that you love yourself less, here are some ways to help you love yourself more, enjoy life and live fulfilled everyday:

1.  Appreciate your body.  Sure, no one is perfect.  If you can’t appreciate your outward appearance, appreciate your inward self.  Appreciate your intelligence, your compassion, your kindness.  Appreciate your attitude.  Appreciate how well your internal organs are functioning. Appreciate how well you converse.  Physical appearance, for instance excess pounds, a not so perfect nose, a flat chest, a difficult to manage hair, etc., will cause you to dislike yourself.  But if look for other things to appreciate your body and do this daily, positive energy will flow and draw you towards self love.
2. Reminisce good times and dwell on these.  Think of these moments and focus your attention to your feelings at those good times.  This will  create a positive energy that will set a new energy pattern in motion.
3. Don’t let petty things steal your composure. Did you know that chronic annoyance and irritation is toxic to the cells of our body and depletes us of energy?  So, the next time a driver cuts you, let it be.  Forgive and don’t let that minor incident destroy your composure and deplete you of your much needed positive energy.  Remember that your negative reaction will affect you and not that driver. Remember, you need to love yourself more.  Do everything to preserve your mind and body. As you do this on a daily basis, you will notice that you start attracting more of the positive things and events.
4. Enjoy, have fun. Do something that you enjoy everyday.  If you are too busy, just spare 15 minutes everyday to do what you love to do.  It could be a short walk in the park, watching a favorite sitcom, reading a book, writing, calling a friend. Whatever it is, give yourself at least 15 minutes a day to do what you love to do.   Give yourself a break.  Enjoy the fun,  be thrilled by the excitement of looking forward to this special time for yourself.  Do not feel guilty about giving yourself time to enjoy on a daily basis.
5. Love and appreciate other people and things.  Learn the habit of loving and giving appreciation. Appreciate the warm glow of the sun, the fragrance of a flower, the sweet and crunchy apple.  As you love and appreciate others and things no matter how minuscule they could be, positive energy will flow out of you and bounce back to you.