We’ve heard a lot about the law of attraction. Simply put, the law of attraction means attracting what you want by focusing on it, by thinking about it. Can the law of attraction apply to good parenting?
You catch your children fighting. You get upset. You tell them to
stop fighting and why it is not good to fight.
You make rules and lecture them on the consequences should they break
your rules. You turn your back and the moment you do, they continue fighting.
This is where the law of attraction comes into play in good
parenting. What you think, say and do to
prevent untoward behavior of your children actually makes your child do that
unwanted behavior.
The law of attraction fuels attraction of like energy. Everything
around us is energy. Our house, car, gadgets
and even our body is made up of molecules of energy. Our thoughts and feelings
emit energy too.
We are a powerhouse of energy, a powerful magnet of energy. Your thoughts make you emit emotions. Your emotions will either attract or repel people,
things and events in accordance to what you feel. For instance, if you have good thoughts, you
will have happy or have positive emotions.
These emotions will then attract good/positive people.
The law of attraction can support you in
parenting. If your reaction to your children’s
fighting is as described above – you get annoyed and irritated, you start
lecturing them on “do not” – you are basically focusing on the negative
energy. This negative energy will then
attract negative results. Your children
will keep fighting and you will always be frustrated.
Instead of focusing on the negative, you need to channel your
energy to the positive side to attract positive results. Our relationship experiences are determined
by our thoughts, emotions and expectations. To have a positive relationship
with our children we need to have positive thoughts, emotions and expectations
of our relationship with them. This
positive energy will not only improve our relationship with our kids but will
also be instrumental in growing responsible and good children. This will train
our children to be in alignment with the positive things in life. They will start to develop an internal or
body mechanism that allows them to feel and enable them to determine good and
positive things from bad. And because of
the good feelings that they receive from positive reactions, they will have a
yearning to do as you teach and as you please.
You can develop the positive law of attraction when you focus on
what you want, get your thoughts and emotions to agree on what you want. So the
next time your kids fight, focus on what you want to happen. Step back, calm down, think positive
thoughts. Then express your desires, needs, intentions
and expectations to your children in a positive and loving way. Show them they
are loved and accepted. When your
children feel these positive emotions, they will respond in a positive way. They
will then cooperate to the achievement of your desires for a loving family,
living harmoniously and peacefully with one another, giving respect and cooperation.
The law of attraction will make our relationships work with our
children if we envision love, peace and harmony so that we attract the same emotions
from our children.
It is true that how we approach the situation will greatly impact our child's reaction and if we want to raise children who appreciate peaceful resolution to conflict (differences are an inevitable part of life) then we must live that example.
ReplyDeleteAnother point to consider is that some amount of "fighting" is normal. It is part of growing up and learning boundaries.
One of the best things we can do as parents is teach our children alternatives and how to check in with the Internal Guidance System to see how they are feeling about a given encounter so they do not develop fighting as an automatic response to conflict.