Help your kids by being strong and
not adding to the issues, concerns and confusions they are in. You may be surprised but it is true; kids are
resilient, they will bounce back. They
just need a strong and stable environment to help them cope up with being in a
single parent home.
Divorce brings painful wound; our
children will definitely undergo emotional pain. But children can learn to adapt in this tough
circumstance if we help them find healing. Because of divorce, children will
experience a number of losses. One parent moves out, and depending on the
financial situation, the children may have to move to a new home, losing
familiar surroundings and their friends. Gaining new friends may become
difficult, siblings grieve, money may be tight and their custodial parent may
be hurt and angry as well. All sense of security and safety is compromised as
children look around to see their new, unsettled world.
Thus, at this time it is very
important for you to be strong and settle your kids’ environment in the best
possible way. Attend to your kid’s needs
with a reassuring and positive attitude.Your love and presence will help
your kids cope with divorce or separation.
Kids need a double dose of your patience, reassurance and listening ear
to minimize the stress and tension in their new environment. It would help to
provide a routine to remind them that they can count on your for
stability, structure and care.
Do not be mistaken; schedules and organization is beneficial for older children as it is for younger children. Kids, regardless of age, feel safer and more secure when they know what will happen next. Kids want to know what to expect. Knowing that they can follow the same routine (i.e. bath after dinnertime) even when they switch homes, helps ease a child.
Keeping a routine also means observing rules; giving rewards and discipline when necessary. Spoiling your kids or not enforcing limits and disregard of rules they break will not help your kids cope up with your divorce or separation.
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