We all have our
setback experiences – relationship, health, finances; name it, no one is
excused. The way we react to setbacks
determines our character and our ability to become winners. Resiliency is marked by the ability to bounce
back from any setback. Resiliency is
marked by the attitude to consider setbacks as challenges and opportunities instead
of problems and failures. Resilient people think differently and
possess certain skills that allow them to persevere, manage stress and become
an overcomer. Some of these skills may be innate but some can be learned.
Resilient people are confident; they are at
peace with their humanity. Their experiences
and mistakes have humbled them; they’ve accepted their own vulnerability. They admit their imperfection but don’t allow
imperfections to hinder them. Making
mistakes is not “failure” but they learn from these mistakes and use the
learning to create positive outcomes.
Resilient people are dynamic thinkers. Like everyone of us, resilient people
struggle with negative thoughts. Their
difference is that resilient people immediately realize that negative thoughts
result to negative outcome. Thus,
resilient people immediately switch gears toward positive thoughts. Instead of jumping
to conclusions and making assumptions, resilient people would gather the facts and
find ways to move around issues and face the challenge head on. When things are
not working, resilient people will make adjustments until they are satisfied
with the result. They are challenged to
look for means that are within their control and they work on that control. We
all have our innate talents and strengths. Resilient people use these strengths
to overcome issues in their life. A resilient person diagnosed with cancer will
not wallow in pity and defeat but will change his lifestyle, consult experts,
change his eating habits, etc. to recover from his illness. Resilient people are dynamic thinkers; they look
for ways to fight any issues in life.
Resilient people are optimistic. Without optimism, you can’t bounce back from
setbacks; pessimism will chain you in darkness and defeat. Resilient people don’t
give up. They look for the rainbow in the
storm. Their attitude is that they will
overcome, they will get through the issue and that the issue will soon
pass. Thus it is easier for a resilient
person to bounce back from a divorce or get over the loss of a loved one.
Resilient people know that they can’t do it
alone. They reach out to friends and
family to seek help. They understand
that it is not “weakness” to ask for help; they are not too proud to admit that
they need help. Vice-versa, resilient
people reach out to help those in need. Resilient people understand that there
is strength in unity; there is strength when you know that people are available
to help you.
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