If Only

Some words should not be used together. “If only” carry a negative feeling that can be detrimental to your success.

"If only I could get a better break."

"If only I had some money."

"If only I would've married the right person."

"If only I worked for the right company."

"If only I had the right parents."

“If only I was born rich.”

“If only I had more education.”

These are excuses; they pull back from taking full personal responsibility for yourself and your present situation. And when you refuse to take responsibility, you will not be able to create a change in your situation.

Many of us avoid do not want to take the blame.  We think that a parent, a teacher, a friend, a boss, a spouse, the company we worked for, or some governmental program should be responsible in turning our lives into what we want them to be. When problems arise we are quick to say, “Life is not fair.” But the truth of the matter is that life is never fair.

Stop thinking that the world owes you a living. You can never get things done or effect a change by sighing “If only”.  Keep in mind that other people and organizations also have pressing challenges and priorities of their own. Because of this you will always be disappointed when you depend on others for the things you must do for yourself.  It's so easy to justify the temptations of freeloading, to slide into being a follower, to fail to see the hidden price tag in the handout.  Unless you take complete control of your life and assume full personal responsibility for yourself, who will? No one will.

Every single Peso you earn is worth ten given to you.  Earned money creates the self-image of self-reliance; given money creates the self-image of other-dependence.  Money won in lottery does absolutely nothing to the character and improvement of the person. This is why some families never get out of the rut. 

Hangers-on and freeloaders are the most frustrated people on earth because they have created their own frustrations.  You can't be successful and happy until you earn the respect of the toughest, hardest to fool, and most important judge in the world:  yourself.

Boycott these two words and begin taking responsibility for your life. “If only “is a product of a victim’s mentality. Success is when you have a victor’s mentality; that is to take charge and to be responsible. You must stop blame storming other people, organizations or the government. Instead, start brainstorming to help you fix your problems. Rather than fixing the blame, for the breakdown, begin to fix the breakdown and you’ll find your life and career working for you.

An unknown poet left us this beautiful poem that would help us carry our responsibilities and stop blaming others.

Count your blessings instead of your crosses;

Count your gains instead of your losses.

Count your joys instead of your woes;

Count your friends instead of your foes.

Count your smiles instead of your tears;

Count your courage instead of your tears.

Count your full years instead of your lean;

Count your kind deeds instead of your mean.

Count your health instead of your wealth;

Count on God instead of yourself.