Feel Good About Yourself

Feel good about yourself!  You deserve it. 

Sometimes, we are our worst enemy!  Why?  Because we tend to push ourselves too much.

We are very cruel to ourselves.  We cling to our every mistake.  We can’t seem to move on from our past errors and missteps.  We are troubled by our unaccomplished dreams and aspirations.  Thus, feeling good about ourselves do not come naturally.

But we need to improve in this area of our lives.  Truly, we, single moms should feel good about ourselves.  We’ve come a long way and have done exceptional deeds.  So if you are one of the single moms who is having an issue about feeling good about yourself, practice the following steps.

1.       Do not compare yourself to other people.  You are unique; your life is unique. Your strengths and weaknesses are not exactly the same as other people.  Even your personal appearance differs from your twin (if you have one).  Your voice like your thumbprint is unique. No one in this planet has exactly the same voice as yours.  Your voice has a certain timbre that allows it to caress, heal and show love.  Remember how your kids respond to your sweet cooing when they are in pain because of a cut they got while playing in the park?

 

Do not compare yourself to other people because this will cause you to lose your self-esteem and confidence.  No matter how great and awesome you are, there will always be someone better.  Besides, comparison is not an exact science. It can be subjective at times. So do no compare yourself with other people.  This will only cause you to be unhappy.

 

2.      “Train your brain to be your greatest cheerleader, most compassionate friend and most loving parent rather than your worst critic”, said   Joyce Marter, LCPC, a therapist in Chicago.  This is not encouraging you to be conceited.  Rather, it teaches your brain to be less critical of yourself.   You wouldn’t judge a friend harshly, would you?  You will be patient and understanding to a friend.  So, why would you be so critical about yourself? 

 

3.      Do your best to help other people.  Helping can be in any form, not just materially.  A listening ear to a friend who is emotionally hurting will go a long way.  Giving does not have to be shelling out an enormous amount of cash; though of course if you can afford it, why not?  It is better to give than to receive. Helping and giving brings warmth to the soul.

 

Single mom, it is time to give yourself a break!  Appreciate what you have done.  Feel good about yourself.