How to Answer Your Kids

Sometimes the questions of kids could be the most difficult to answer.  Kids are very inquisitive.  Kids ask a lot of questions.  We sometimes think that their questions are silly.  “Why does the sun have to rise in the east?”  Where is east?” Because of kids’ inquisitive character, single moms prepare themselves for the most dreaded question that their kids might ask.  Single moms believe that they are well prepared.  They are confident that they got all things covered.  They believe that they are prepared to answer any questions from their kids.  They have figured out how to answer in the best way that will benefit their kids.  But when the time comes that these little ones pop-up the question most single moms are lost for words.

Probably it is because kids ask the question unexpectedly. They might be playing when all of a sudden they ask, “Mom, why did dad leave us?” Since you did not expect the question at that time, you are caught off guard and your mind races to find the answer you’ve prepared and rehearsed over and over again. Unfortunately, because of the hurt and pain you still keep in your heart, your mind finds only hate and angry answers. The only answer that your mind locates is not the answer you have prepared.  Rather, it is the answer that seeks revenge.  It is the answer of frustration, lost hopes and lost dreams. 

I believe that if single moms have forgiven their ex-husbands they will be able to give an answer that will help their kids in their emotional growth.  Their answer will be one that is careful not to put blame on anyone.  It is a fair and logical answer.

Bitterness will cause a single mom to answer in ways that might destroy their kids’ perception of their biological father and life itself.  Forgiveness will help a single mom give an answer that is best fitting; an answer that will make her kid’s understand the facts of life.  Forgiveness will help a single mom to provide an answer that will help her kids understand that it is no one’s fault and that regardless of their present situation they will prevail and will become successful in their lives.   

The biological father is an undeniable part of their children.  Regardless of what he has done, this doesn’t diminish his participation in their kids’ conception.  When the kids experience the forgiveness of their mom, they will likewise have a forgiving heart which will help them tackle life’s challenges.   In most cases, kids who experience a loving forgiveness grow to be better individuals.  They will be more capable of accepting the situation.  They will grow to be more independent, striving and loving.

The best way to answer any question posed by your kids is to answer in love, understanding and forgiveness.