Healing Your Hurts

No one wants to be in pain, in hurt.  We all want to forget the pain and heal the hurt. However, in most instances it is very difficult to get healing from your hurt.  It is just human nature to stay in an environment of pain for a certain period of time.  This is perfectly alright because that time will allow you to contemplate on the issue and this deep thinking will help you get your healing.  But it becomes a concern if you stay in your hurt environment for a prolonged period of time.  Being in such a situation may lead to a serious problem of depression.  You need to get healing for your hurt.

Here are some proven methods to get you past your hurt and on the road to recovery:

1.       Pray.  Prayer is simply talking to God, telling Him about your feelings.  Yes, God knows everything but this practice is not for the benefit of God.  This is for you.  You need to tell him the pain you are experiencing and ask help to get pass the hurt.  Ask Him to help you move forward from your hurtful past.

2.      Forgive.  Let go of your grudges. I know this is difficult but you need to try it.  Little by little you will be able to let go and forgive.  Quit thinking of the past.  Stop thinking of how the person has hurt you.  Stop re-enacting in your mind the drama of your life.  Instead of wasting your time thinking of how it hurts, put your time to better use. Make yourself busy.  When you feel that your mind is driving you to think of the hurt, stand up and pick on something to do like gardening, exercising, reading.  Pick on a hobby that will take your mind off the bad past.

3.      Be around people who love you. Make sure that you surround yourself with people who care for you.  Enjoy your time with them.  Chat, play games, go out, etc. with people who value you.  Their presence will delight you; their words will uplift and encourage you.

4.      If the situation calls for it, change your environment.  You might want to move to another house, re-decorate or refrain from going to the places you used to frequent that brings back bad memories.

5.       Join groups or organizations whose members have the same dilemma as you.  Learn from their experiences.  It helps a lot when people share and encourage one another.

6.      Now if these simple suggestions do not work, you might want to consider getting professional help.  Probably your pain is deeper and you have stayed a long time in your pity and resentment chamber, you would need a professional to talk you out of your hurts.  The professional need not be a psychologist but pastors and counselors also provide excellent support.