When You Need a Child Custody Lawyer

Not all of us are lucky because our kids landed on our laps.  Our ex-husband just chose to leave us and our kids.  Some single moms though, have to fight for their children because the ex do not want to leave the kids with the wife.  He wants the kids to be with him and his new partner.

In cases such as this, the single mom must be very adept in finding a lawyer that will help her win the battle for child custody.  Of course if you are struggling financially, the lawyer’s fee will be an issue but cross the bridge when you get there.  Don’t think of the cost at this moment, focus first on the qualities of a custody lawyer who will win your case.

The first thing to do is to ask for referrals. When looking for a good lawyer, it can be very helpful to ask friends and family for their recommendations.

Normally, we look for “ideal skills” in a lawyer - good listening, writing and speaking abilities; an excellent knowledge of the law; prior court experience. We may also consider toughness and sometimes ruthlessness as qualities of a good lawyer.   

More than a lawyer’s accomplishments and skills, it is ideal that the lawyer you work with is someone who knows the backend.  That is, the lawyer must know the judge well and that he or she has a good relationship with the judge.  Such a lawyer will be able to tell what the judge has done in cases similar to yours.  The lawyer will be able to tell you what the judge cares about and what he or she takes for granted.  The lawyer knows when the judge is in a good mood or not.  Practically, this lawyer knows how to “manipulate” to win your case.

Whether your prospect lawyer was referred or not, it is important that you meet the lawyer for an initial consultation before deciding to hire him or her. Note that some lawyers ask for consultation fee so ask this question before scheduling a meeting. 

Be prepared during the consultation.  You will be asking a number of questions in a short period of time, so it is best to make a list of these questions.  Don’t be ashamed to ask about credentials like how long has he or she been litigating custody cases in your area.  What is the success rate?  The final question is about the attorney’s fee.

How does the lawyer charge?  Flat rates or hourly fees? What is the estimated the total cost? How long will this take to fully resolve? Keep in mind that you will end up paying a lawyer for more than just the time they spend on your case. If applicable to your case, you may have to pay them for phone costs, traveling costs, and even costs to make copies. Take this into consideration when making a financial plan.

On the next meeting you must feel comfortable talking to him or her about the details of your case.  Good lawyers aren't just knowledgeable and intelligent, but they have good people skills and can make you at ease and willing to open up on personal matters.

When you fight for the custody of your children, you are fighting to win.  Therefore, get the best lawyer possible.