What to Do when You Feel Down

Our mood sways – it may soar up but it could also go down.  What should you do when you feel down?

 

When you are in a good mood, nothing and no one can take off that smile from your face.  If you meet someone with a negative attitude, you can just shrug off any bad comment, but when you feel down, negative people can bring you deeper into a bad mood. 

 

So, if you feel down avoid negative people like the attention seeker, the pessimist and the perfectionist. The attention seeker will further drain your energy as this person seeks only to be admired and given attention to.  This person does not care about what you feel.  He only wants to satisfy his own feelings. He just wants to be noticed, listened to and be praised. You cannot be with this person when you are feeling down because your energy will be sapped if you give attention to this person's whims. 

 

Never be around a pessimist when you feel down.  Every circumstance is doom’s day for this person.  This guy will just push you down to depression. He will tell you that life is not worth living, your boss sucks, you  can never get out of debt, you can never be a successful single mom and so on.  Don’t let the negativity of this person rub on you. Avoid him at all cost. 

 

You wouldn’t want to be around a perfectionist either.  Though you should not desire being pampered, you should not be pushed around by a perfectionist who would tell you that your attitude is unbecoming.  Sometimes, we just have to allow a bad feeling to make us realize that we are humans.  Sometimes single moms are too caught up with their responsibilities that they forget that they are not super human beings.  We are so busy that we sometimes forget to “feel”.  We have to be honest with our ourselves to be able to deal with such emotionss in a positive way. We also have bad hair days and a feeling of emptiness.  A perfectionist will condemn such feeling.  Don’t allow this person to create in you a stone of heart. Remember that one of the ways to overcome the challenges of being a single mom is to accept the bad feelings and to deal with them.  Dealing with these feelings take time, so give yourself ample time.  Allow yourself the liberty of feeling down but don’t stay there too long.

 

If you have these kinds of people in your circle of friends, avoid them when you are in a state of bad mood.  Instead, surround yourself with other friends who are more likely to understand you.  Those who are sympathetic, understanding, compassionate, available and willing to either listen or talk to you.  Sometimes at this stage, you just want to be around somebody – no talking; while others would want to just talk so you would need a friend who will just listen.  Sometimes, you just feel like being alone; so be it.

 

But make sure you get up and trust that you will feel better.  After a day (maximum) of allowing yourself to feel down, think of all the positive things in your life.  Start counting your blessings – life, good weather, kids, good health, safe travel, family, friends, job, business, etc.