The Fear of Kids Growing Up Without a Father

Fear is a four letter word with power in it.  Just like death, fear is a universal experience.  Regardless of race or social status we all experience fear in our lifetime.  One of the fears of single moms is their kids growing up without a father.

No Father, No Money
This is the common contention. A single-parent household means that the family will live close to poverty.  This is not true in all cases.  Most single moms I know are wise financial managers.  They are also very industrious and are very creative in finding ways to earn money.

Besides, there are a number of cases wherein even with a father in the house, the family suffers from lack of financial means.

No Manly Figure to Emulate
Research says that growing up without a father changes the way your brain develops.  They say that this is especially true for boys because they don’t have a manly figure to emulate; probably resulting to some becoming gay.  They also say that growing up without a father leads to boys becoming more aggressive leading them to join gangs and becoming involved in drugs and alcohol.

However, even if you have a father in your family, the same thing can happen to your child. Remember that a father is someone who helped you in the conception of your child.  That father becomes a dad to your child only if he fulfills his duties and obligations of providing sacrificial love to his child.  If the father does not have love for his child and fails to provide the financial and emotional needs of his child, then you are better off not having him in your family.
If the footsteps your kid will emulate lead to the path of destruction, why would you expose your kid to such manly figure?  Would you allow your kid to aspire to become an alcoholic, a drug user, a wife beater?

Fear is expecting negative things to happen.  Fear prevents us from exploring the future and having a positive outlook in life.  It drains our energy and prevent us from reaching our goals.  It keeps us from getting what we need and want and keeps us dependent on other people.

If you are living a nightmare now, master the courage to get out and live out your dreams for you and your children.  Stop thinking of the negative things that may result from your decision to become a single mom.  Instead, focus on becoming a strong parent for your children.

Leave fear behind, move on, live life!