Should Single Moms Go Out on a Date?

My personal opinion... not now.  Not until the kids are grown up.  Not until you are healed from your past.  Not until you are ready.

First things first, focus on your children and how to build a better life for you and your children. I honestly believe that the priority of most single moms is their children.  Therefore to help them focus on their priority, they should avoid dating while the kids are young.  Young children (zero to five years old) need more care and attention.  It is also at this stage that kids’ growth potential (mentally, emotionally, socially and physically) is at its maximum. Therefore, it is pertinent that single moms do their best to be with their children most of the time to care for them and influence them.

I believe that it is only fair to put priority on the children because the children were there first.  They were there as the single mom was experiencing her unfavorable situation. Her children are giving her the strength and encouragement during that stage.  Though young as they may be, her children gave her courage to face her new role.  They shower her with love and it is only fair to return that love by giving her utmost attention to her children instead of going out on a date.
 

Let’s face it, single mothers are busy bodies. We wear different hats everyday.  We are torn between two identities; that of a loving, caring and attentive mother and that of a single woman.  It will help us a lot to focus on our priority if we forgo dating for the time being.

 

When your children are older and old enough to understand, then you can consider your next priority which could be finding a companion.  Nevertheless, before you plunge into the dating world be sure that you do not carry excess baggage from your previous relationship.  You must be sure that you have forgiven your ex-husband and yourself from your bad past. You must be sure that you have the right reason of why you are going out on a date.  Your reason for dating must be because you seek happiness and a lifetime relationship.  Your desire is for love and not for financial reasons.  Before plunging into the dating world, you must be 101% sure of yourself and what you want.  You must be sure that you are prepared and ready for another serious relationship.