Do you turn a deaf ear when your child asks you questions?
Children are very inquisitive. They are
observant and would always compare. If
you are a single mom, you will surely get the question – do I have a dad? Why does
he not live with us?
Often times we refuse to answer because we don’t know how to
respond to direct-to-the-point questions of our children. Our refusal to give an answer will create
issues in the minds of our children. If
you think that they will forget their question, you are in for a surprise. Children have sharp memories and will not
stop till they get their curiosity or questions answered. They will get the answer from their peers or
from someone else.
Your kid will value their friend’s answer
It is best to answer children’s questions than let their questions be answered by their peers. When my son was in kindergarten, he kept pestering me to get him a pet – a guinea pig. I vehemently refused but my son has ways of getting what he wants. He befriended a schoolmate and his schoolmate promised to give him a guinea pig as soon as his pet gets pregnant. So everyday my son would ask me how could a guinea get pregnant. I was not comfortable talking about procreation to a 4 year old boy so I just ignored his question. I got the shock of my life when one day my son went home so excited because he is sure to get his guinea pig in a day or two. He and his schoolmate found a way for the guinea pig to get pregnant. They tied the tails of 2 guinea pigs!
It is best to answer children’s questions than let their questions be answered by their peers. When my son was in kindergarten, he kept pestering me to get him a pet – a guinea pig. I vehemently refused but my son has ways of getting what he wants. He befriended a schoolmate and his schoolmate promised to give him a guinea pig as soon as his pet gets pregnant. So everyday my son would ask me how could a guinea get pregnant. I was not comfortable talking about procreation to a 4 year old boy so I just ignored his question. I got the shock of my life when one day my son went home so excited because he is sure to get his guinea pig in a day or two. He and his schoolmate found a way for the guinea pig to get pregnant. They tied the tails of 2 guinea pigs!
Adults can mislead your kids
Though unintentionally, adults can mislead and frighten your children. A friend’s daughter turned from a gregarious child to a quiet and sad girl. We latter found out that an adult neighbor told her to stop asking too many questions because the “all-knowing” fairy might get angry with her and sew her mouth.
Though unintentionally, adults can mislead and frighten your children. A friend’s daughter turned from a gregarious child to a quiet and sad girl. We latter found out that an adult neighbor told her to stop asking too many questions because the “all-knowing” fairy might get angry with her and sew her mouth.
You must motivate your child to ask questions. Children are
like sponge. Everything around them makes
them curious and would like to know the why, how, when, what, who, etc. Enjoy hearing silly questions – why did I have
to be the youngest. Or probably questions you may have to get help to answer –
why is the moon round and not square? One
answered question would lead to another question so it is a never ending
conversation. Enjoy the moment! You will have your child for only a few
years. Soon, he will become a teenager
and he will not bother you anymore. He
would only want to spend his time with his friends and would seldom ask you
questions. Take the time now to fill the
“sponge” with the right information, enjoying the time and laughing out to what
probably could be silly questions that you should gladly answer.
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