Personal Growth

Personal growth or stunted growth takes place, whetherwe consciously work at it or not. Every trial andtribulation in life is another opportunity for personal growth. The way we process and handle these situations determine if we will become better individuals or bitter persons.

Relationships are essential in living a healthy life and they are the bonds that weave our emotions and satisfy our hearts. Family relationships, friendships, and a significant other are all vital parts of a person's well being.  Though basically, relationships are the first area that is devastated in a single moms life; there is hope for personal growth from such trial.

Be better not bitter
The first way out of this situation is to consider the situation as a challenge.  Change your perspective.  Regardless of what has happened, you must always look for a brighter side.  For instance, if your husband left you, just think that at least he left you the kids.  Your kids motivate you.  They are your springboards to life!  They will make you strive harder to earn money to provide for their needs.  Your love for them will enable you to raise loving and responsible children.

Give the relationship issue a dose of its own medication.  You were ravaged with relationship, build yourself up with relationship.  Do not hide from the world. Rather, meet more of your family and friends.  You should not be ashamed of what has happened in your life – whether your husband left you or you are an unwed mom.  People make mistakes and you are not alone.   If your husband passed away, do not be a hermit.  Go out and mingle with people to free you from sad thoughts.

Exercise is often used as a way to get help. This isn't for the purpose of feeling better about yourself or even to lose weight. However, going to the gym or running, can let off a lot of stress and frustration, which could otherwise build up and turn you into a very bitter person.

Learn to forgive yourself, forgive others, and ask for forgiveness. If you've had a bad day and yelled at your kids, take a moment to say you are sorry even if you do not want to do it. Doing so will take you a step forward on the road to personal development and show proper coping techniques at the same time. Same goes if you yelled at a cashier or a co-worker. Show the way of being able to ask for forgiveness and to forgive.

Take time out of your day to do the things that you actually enjoy doing. Whether it is playing with the kids, taking a long quiet walk or reading a good book, taking the time to do these things will make a positive difference in your outlook on life.

Personal growth is not always easy; in fact, sometimes it involves a lot of personal pain before the growth and development begins. As we make our way through life, it helps to maximize each challenge and look for the good in it so that we can continue to get better at finding true happiness inside ourselves.